Tips dating after age 50
The profile is what people ponder when they’re interested enough to spend a little time deciding whether to contact you or return your contact.
But the good news for you is that it’s easy to outshine the competition.
More and more of us find ourselves back in a dating world that has changed tremendously over the past decade.
Even though it seems to be all about Facebook, Tweeting and texting — some things — like self respect and values — are still the same.
Check out useful tips on writing an awesome online profile, and be inspired by ideas for inexpensive dates. If you’re 50 or older and back in the dating pool, you’ll discover that one key to successful online dating is having a strong profile.
Lastly, peek at some pointers on how to have great “first-time” sex. Many people just dash off their online profile, but that’s a really bad idea.
I am always stunned by how most people just don't listen, and how far one can get simply by listening.
• But by far the most important advice I can give is LISTEN! Yes, money is important (I don't have much, so I can only assume from what I've heard), and being attractive is great (I'm not Clooney but I try my best.) But listening trumps them all. Being genuinely interested in hearing about their histories, their successes, their disappointments, their journeys yet to take. • And fourth, listening is an amazingly under-appreciated talent. Hearing someone's story and details about their life is what it's all about, as far as I'm concerned. (I don't date men, so I don't know, but assume many men are unhappy with it as well.) That's too bad, because the online dating experience has opened up possibilities to meet people you never would have met before, and if some of those people are creepy or boring or not what they seem to be, here's a news flash: That was true back in the days when you only met people at work, at school, at the gym, at bars, or the dread introduced to you by friends. I love hearing stories and everyone -- especially women over 50 -- has a story. ADVICE FOR MEN Along the way on this path that most people might consider a waste of time and money, some lessons have emerged.Online dating isn't something to fear even if you haven't dated for years I've been dating pretty much since I was 49. (I'll let you do the math -- I don't like saying my age out loud.) The following is stated neither with gushing pride nor cowering shame: During those past 13 years, I've had more than 1,000 dates with more than 300 different women. There are things men and women can take going into this dating abyss, but let's start with advice for you (older) guys, in reverse order of importance • Funny is good. Cynical and bitter might work if you're a dark and complicated graduate student. They're coupled but bored, and hope to reassure themselves that they're still attractive by hooking men like you. One study found that on average, people claimed to be an inch taller than the national average. One pleasant surprise about dating after 50 is less groveling for sex. Just as gold miners move tons of rock to find a few nuggets, you'll probably have to date dozens of women before you find Ms. If you know that a budding relationship has no future, don't waste your time or hers.Dating should be fun, even if a little exhausting at times. You know yourself better than you did at 30, but you have less patience for the endless BS -- and it is endless -- and it's difficult to find someone with whom you want to spend however much time you have left.
They seem interested, but after a few e-mails, they disappear.