Friendship first before dating
It might work out years later (if you remain in touch) or it might not.The point being, for now that door is closed and you start looking elsewhere. Becoming good friends first sounds great theoretically, but in many cases, you don't want another friend, you want a girl/boy-friend.If you feel a connection, ask her/him out for a date.
If your friend looks out for you and cares for your soul, not just your body, then you know you will not be taken advantage of.
No wonder partners both obsess about the loved one and idealize the person. I’m saying I’ve got the secret for having your cake and eating it, too.
You can—and should—delight in the heart-pounding giddiness of love. But if you want the whole thing to last, then you need friendship, too. Think of your own good friends, the ones who have your back, the ones who are there for you, no matter what.
The problem happens when the other person does not "date", or needs to be "good friends" before considering a "relationship" -- basically the other person does not share your view of exploring possibilities, she/he needs to be sure (to a good extent) of it working out before it even begins.
Of course, it might just be that she/he just doesn't like you or find you attractive.
But you automatically lose the right to complain or act hurt if things don't work out your way.